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Discussing STDs with your partner

Discussing STDs with a partner is difficult for most couples. This is especially true when one partner has to ask the other partner if there are chances that he or she could be infected.

However, discussing STDs doesn’t have to be as complicated as most people assume.

Why do you need to talk about STDs with your partner?

Since many STDs have no noticeable symptoms, you and your partner may be unaware of any infections. That’s why the discussion is so important — when you feel comfortable talking about STDs, both of you can get tested and communicate freely about your health. Starting the conversation is the first step toward each partner being tested for STDs. This prepares you for a healthy relationship.

How do you navigate the STD conversation?couple discussing on couch

The partner starting the discussion about STDs should carefully approach the conversation. This is a sensitive topic for many couples, so it deserves your thought and preparation.When you’re ready to discuss STDs with a partner, think about the questions you will ask and the best time for the discussion.

Talk about STDs: Advice you need

  1. Use language that fits your personality. Don’t try to use complicated or professional language. Being comfortable discussing STDS will show your partner you are expressing yourself with confidence and assurance.

  2. Be yourself during the discussion. Use the conversation to show your partner that you care about the relationship. Stress how you care about your partner’s STDs status and proceed to assure him or her that the discussion is vital for your relationship.

  3. Inquire about the health of your partner. Ask if he or she has ever been tested for STDs before.

  4. Pick a time and place that makes sense for the conversation. Make sure you can talk about your sexual health freely and that you have enough time to do so.

Are you ready to talk about STDs with your partner?

Start the discussion with a testing location in mind. TEST SMARTLY LABS offers confidential and affordable STD testing at locations across the country.

Come to the table prepared. Talk to your doctor about concerns and educate yourself on the different STDs and symptoms. You can find information about STDs on our blog. Here are some helpful articles to read and share as you talk about STDs together:

posted in Relationships and STDs,STDs and have Comments (9)


  1. Comment by Marvin Somlo on September 13, 2013 at 2:53 pm

    Being open and honest about STD’s may seem a little scary at first, but if you’re truly serious about your relationships with your partners you should always try to be truthful.

  2. Comment by Danny Azzo on September 13, 2013 at 4:12 pm

    Nobody wants to surprised by an STD, do the right thing.

  3. Comment by Danny Azzo on September 13, 2013 at 5:26 pm

    It may be hard to talk about it, but you’ll be better off being honest about your situation.

  4. Comment by Stuart Jones on September 13, 2013 at 5:34 pm

    Nobody wants to have the talk, but if you’re experiencing an STD telling your partner should be a priority.

  5. Comment by Amy Ray on September 13, 2013 at 5:54 pm

    If you’re in a new relationship there is nothing wrong about being safe and asking your partner. They should respect you for it.

  6. Comment by Jim Pierce on September 13, 2013 at 7:23 pm

    Being honest may be tough, but it’s worth it in the end.

  7. Comment by Simon Raphael on September 13, 2013 at 7:34 pm

    It’s a tough conversation, but it’s a healthy one.

  8. Comment by Eric Johnsen on September 22, 2013 at 5:21 pm

    Discussing STDs is never something that anyone wants to do. However, these are some really good tips to take that first step. Thank you.

  9. Comment by Tony Thompson on September 23, 2013 at 9:12 pm

    Great advice for those in doubt of how to have this conversation. As awkward as it may be, its important to be up front about everything, or else it may cause issues and resentment down the road.

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